So here's an idea. Add an output spam filter. I write a mail, and send it. The system spam-scans the mail and returns me a notice if it thinks it's a spam. The advantage here: no false positives - I'll never lose mail, I will receive a notice that it was considered spam, and will re-send it, removing the offending words. Practically, this should almost never happen to normal users, but it can severly hurt spammers.
spam-filters on output
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